Have you forgiven yourself?

Forgiveness

13 reasons why forgiving yourself is hard

1.    you can justify the actions of others but not your own

2.    You still feel guilty, regardless of what others say

3.    You cannot accept failure

4.    You have to live with yourself

5.    You cannot escape your past

6.    You can give grace, but you cannot receive it

7.    you couldn’t possibly pay for what you did

8.    You feel it is your duty to punish yourself

9.    Your mind will not stop replaying the incident

10.                  You don’t feel worthy of forgiveness

11.                  You don’t believe others or God have really forgiven you

12.                  You refuse to forgive others

13.                  You simply don’t know how

You have to accept the fact that you have to forgive yourself

Forgiving yourself completes the circle of forgiveness and you are free to enjoy all the benefits of forgiveness without the side effects of unforgiveness

“Those who refuse to forgive others cannot forgive themselves” and the enemy can trick them into being sarcastic and bitter to hide their deep feelings

Those who refuse to forgive themselves have trouble accepting unconditional love of the Father or of people God has put in their life.

We expect so much more of ourselves than we do of others…we assume we should know better and rather than feel convicted we are in a constant state of condemnation.

If we don’t forgive ourselves we are in self-inflicted bondage, plain and simple and we will never learn to love one’s self and that keeps us in constant pain and insecurity. 

IT IS NOT GOD’S PLAN WE ARE COMING IN TO AGREEMENT AWITH SATAN and the side effects are NEGATIVE IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY concerning relationships and intimacy.

Forgiving our self and loving our self gives creates freedom:

Freedom from guilt

Freedom from instant replay in our mind (forgiving means mentally, emotionally and spiritually throwing the replay away)

Freedom to be at peace in your heart

Freedom from self-punishment; Christians are masters at self-punishment and self-hatred

Freedom to be confident and secure

Freedom to feel worthy  (WASH IT OFF BY SAYING I FORGIVE MYSELF)

Freedom to accept God’s forgiveness

THE TRUTH IS GOD CANNOT LIE.  WHEN HE SAYS HE FORGIVES YOU, HE FORGIVES YOU.

Freedom to NOT be perfect you are perfectly imperfect and that is ok

Maybe we could have done better and that is probable; but that we should been perfect that is not possible.  To think that acceptance and approval are based on perfection is a view, belief and approach that will damage every relationship we have.

We are accepted by God PERIOD! God adopted you  (Ephesians 1:5), He chose you (1:11), and He loved you and gave His Son for you (John 3:16)

Accept forgiveness from God, others and yourself

Matt 22:39 Love yourself as your neighbor…Love your neighbor as yourself

10 STEPS How to forgive yourself

1.    Decide on the hurt.  Define what you did what is it exactly that you want to forgive yourself for doing?

2.    Be real and honest.  Don’t add or remove anything from your incident.  Make sure you are completely real and honest.

3.    State what you want.  Why do you want to forgive yourself?  What is it you want? Be very clear with yourself?

4.    Choose to forgive yourself.  Choose.  Make the decision that you are actually going to forgive yourself.

5.    Speak your forgiveness.  Begin with “I forgive myself for…and complete the sentence.  Stating what you are choosing to forgive yourself for is important, but what you want to repeat is the fact that you have forgiven yourself and that you are free!

6.    Stop replaying the offense.  Leave it alone, it is over. You put it to rest with forgiveness and don’t need to bring it up any longer

If you do bring it up to yourself IDENTIFY< DETACH< DECIDE that you must repent and admit to God you brought the offense up to your self again…as to do that is SIN IT IS OVER

7.    Show Love to yourself.  How do you show love to yourself?  The same way you show love to those your forgive.  You respect, honor, praise, encourage, believe in, and show kindness toward yourself in the same way.

8.    Pray for yourself.  Ask God for strength, wisdom, and help to rise above your situation to become a better person

9.    Look for reconciliation ...reconcile with yourself.  Accept yourself as you are. 

10.                  Move on.  Move on with your life.  Leave what happened in the past.  God has already forgiven you.  He burned the list.  You need to burn the list against yourself so you can be free.

BURN THE LIST

Some of these 10 steps may sound a bit cheesy and strange but you will see how it makes sense as you go through the process.  To love yourself is key to freedom and peace.

Quit burying your hurts.  At the bottom of every hurt, pain, and injustice lies the seeds of unforgiveness.  And it will keep you in bondage forever if you allow it…that is the desire of the enemy to destroy your life.

Getting free of past bondages is vitally important

To heal it you must reveal it…and then throw it away

Suppressed unforgiveness is especially dangerous because it has the ability to ruin your life.  You can go from living the high life to living in the gutter!  It is so not worth it.  Whatever the deep hurt, deal with it and if unforgiveness has woven itself and it probably has into some area of your life, you know what to do with it!

People usually deal with a hurt by burying it or blowing up and neither way will bring you wholeness and freedom that God wants for you.

The way to deal with real hurt and real pain is by being real, and the only way to be 100% real is to walk in forgiveness. 

Going deep takes time to recover…it is a process

Don’t beat yourself up that you go backwards …it is a process just pick up and go again.